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Kaia, The Charismatic Connector (ESFJ)

Extroverted, Sensing, Feeling, Judging

Overview

Kaias are warm and friendly givers, who seek harmony in life. They are natural-born helpers who have a sixth sense for what people truly need. As The Charismatic Connector, they are sensitive souls with boundless energy towards reaching their goals of assisting others and creating comfort.

Kaias are the world’s best party hosts, kindest teachers and most definitely have won awards for community service. They make up about 12 percent of the world's population. 

Kaias seek harmony, togetherness and get great joy from making others happy through their accommodating actions. Kaias are loyal and trustworthy and crave close relationships with those dearest to them. A Kaia loves to dedicate her time and energy during work and play to create joy for others. Honestly, what a gem. When you think of a Kaia, you think of sweaters, fireplaces, and cups of hot cocoa. Kaias are so essential to our world, mostly because of how often their many thoughtful acts of kindness make this a much more tolerable place.

Famous ESFJs: Jennifer Garner, Jennifer Lopez, Tyra Banks, Eva Longoria, Mary Tyler Moore, Rachel McAdams, Mary J Blige, Nancy Kerrigan

Strengths

Empathetic Kaias are by far THE most helpful person to have around. Eager to jump at an opportunity to make situations smoother, easier and gentler for all; A Kaia is the hostess with the mostess. Kaias are ruled by strict moral codes, grounded in kindness, and they expect others to uphold them with that same intensity. 

That said, Kaias are especially adept at harmony and creating environments where people feel supported and cherished. Kaias have a unique ability at harnessing their talents for the greater good of the world around them. They typically enjoy routine and often keep a regular schedule that allows them to be organized and productive.

Common Strengths: Supportive, Kind, Outgoing, Gregarious, Dutiful, Loyal, Sensitive, Warm, Great at Friendships

Weaknesses

Oh amiable and helpful Kaia, it’s okay to take a break! Kaias run themselves ragged trying to please every person and group around them. This truly gives a Kaia great joy, but they need to learn to take time for themselves as well to be a little selfish. Otherwise, due to their empathetic nature, they make become overburdened by other people's problems.

In addition, good-natured Kaia loves people so much that talking about people is a popular pastime for her. Kaias can sometimes be seen as intrusive and need to be careful what info they pass along to their friends who trust them. It’s okay, everyone gossips, but keeping gossip in check creates a better foundation for the harmony Kaias truly crave.

Also, Kaias need to learn that despite their amazing talents for helping, sometimes there are situations where people just want to be left alone. They need to not be offended that their presence is unwanted because surely there will be other times for Kaias to step in and save the day.

Common Weaknesses: Ignore Problems, Sensitive to Criticism, Needy, Too Selfless, Overly Concerned about Social Status

Romantic Relationships

Romance is a strong suit for Kaias, who embody the dreamiest partner. Kaias are supportive, loving, reliable, trustworthy and caring. Kaias project a sincere warmth that can be hard to come by. A perfect partner for Kaia is someone who appreciates nurture, warmth, and honesty. A partner for Kaia is someone who isn’t afraid to get mushy and send heart notes just for the hell of it. With all the deceit in dating, it’s so refreshing for both Kaias and her matches to relate to someone who is so reckless with their kindness! We could all use a little more reckless kindness -- and some heart-shaped cookies.

Kaias dream of long-term partnerships and are best suited for LTR’s. Short term, and “Friends with benefits” need not apply. Kaias must be aware that she might get her heart broken since many people don’t possess the same kind and giving nature she so easily accesses. However, once Kaias find their match, they are motivated to resolve conflicts quickly as a team and to help maintain harmony in the home with their love.

Friendships

Kaias, as friends, are just as helpful, resourceful and caring as they are with partners. While some personalities reserve their sensitive and giving side only towards their partners; Kaias are more free-wielding with their gifts. Kaia friends are friends for a lifetime since she holds her friendships as close to her heart as her own siblings. Kaia likes clear boundaries with friends yet sometimes depends too much on letting others put them up for her. A Kaia must be as steadfast in keeping boundaries as she is in giving and helping. Kaias have to make sure to not be stepped over or taken for granted. It’s okay to say no to being picked as Maid of Honor for the fifth wedding this month!  Safe, stable Kaia is a friend that should always be cheered for and cherished like 20 Bitcoins bought in 2011.

Career Path & Workplace Habits

Kaias work best in team settings and are the first person to volunteer to helm the office party planning committee or philanthropy run. ESFJs are an asset to any team because without that high-gear warmth and productivity the office would definitely be colder. However, it’s essential for Kaias to work at companies or projects that stay true to their values. If you ask Kaia to throw a party for “The Benefit to Tear Down the Rest of the Amazon Rainforest” she will definitely give a very firm NO. Change the tune to something more beneficial to the greater good, and she will surpass almost every expectation. Caring, kind Kaia isn’t just the office softie, but someone who truly follows through. Don’t sleep on a Kaia and read her for weak; she’s strong, efficient and creates magic wherever she goes.

Fun Careers for ESFJs: Corporate Trainer, Special Ed Teacher, Nurse, Police Officer, Counselor, Event Coordinator, Public Relations

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