Dakota, The Carefree Charmer (ESFP)
Overview
“Let me entertain you” is the catch-phrase of a Dakota. These women are the firecrackers with inherent star power. Born actresses, they are the women on the street who people think, “OMG ARE THEY FAMOUS?” Well, yeah, with a Dakota there is a high possibility she’s in showbiz. Charming, vivacious, infectious performers who totally embody the phrase “free-spirit.” Dakotas are warm, friendly, energetic and fun-loving. They are true pleasure seekers who love beautiful people, places, and things. Dakotas always know the best cafe with the totally Instagrammable wall or the new nightlife spot they may get photographed at. They make up about 8.5% of the world's population.
Dakotas are adept at drawing people together and creating lightness and laughter amongst a crowd or small group of family and friends. Being around Dakotas is contagious, like a very charming flu, they leave people counting down the days until they can laugh, play, sing and dance with them again.
Famous Dakotas: Adele, Miley Cyrus, Serena Williams, Nicki Minaj, Pink, Chloe Grace Moretz, Goldie Hawn
Strengths
As The Carefree Charmer, Dakotas are always exciting and never boring. The type of girl who always seems to be just coming from a great party or exclusive event. They truly live in the moment and don’t let pressing issues get them down while they are trying to have fun. Dakotas fill their free time with countless activities, groups, friends, and hobbies. Dakota probably admins 10 Facebook groups about style and goes to “Knitting with Cats” every Tuesday and, wait… it’s hard to keep up! Never one to miss out on fun, Dakotas are great people for letting others ride with them on their extravaganzas. Dakotas are the Holly Golightly -- mysterious, yet extremely social and charming. Underneath this fun, fun, fun persona, there’s also a down-to-earth person who thrives on inclusion and wanting to please. There’s never a dull moment with lively Dakota.
Plus, they are genuinely interested in new people and new experiences which make them authentic, fun friends to be around.
Common Strengths: Flexible, Adaptable, Joyful, Great Networkers, Great Showwomen, Practical, Aesthetic Intelligence, Original, Observant, Beyond Bold
Weaknesses
Dakotas can get overextended and not leave enough downtime for themselves to recharge. Sure, going-going-going at 80MPH is a great way to get the ya-yas out, but realistically, there have to be quiet moments in life to appreciate the thrilling ones. Dakotas can be fearful of what lies beneath the sun and fun charm, and try to avoid facing their depression or demons via distractions and entertainment.
Dakotas can also overextend themselves as people-pleasers who want to always be admired and loved. People may take advantage of this, and amiable Dakota only wants the fun to continue and gain more entertaining friends. However, not everyone has Dakota’s best interests at heart, and she can use downtime to be more introspective about her surroundings. And since ESFPs love living in the moment, a true "joie de vivre" lifestyle, this means they hate making long-term plans or being tied down.
Common Weaknesses: Sensitive, Unfocused, Easily Bored, Avoids Conflict Often, Can Lack Structure and Long-Term Planning
Romantic Relationships
Dakotas are generous partners who love affection and attention. Dakotas always want to please their partners, which is natural for a born entertainer. Dakotas want harmonious relationships with fun, energetic partners who create in turn fun energetic homes. Think Dakotas and their S.O. painting rooms sunset colors, installing hilarious cat photos in ornate frames and other light-hearted decorations that make their home, well, truly them! Dakotas have so many casual acquaintances that their few close friends and romantic partners are considered very dear. Dakotas will put their partners as their #1 priority to keep the intimate connection in their orbit.
Dakotas should be aware of their impulsive tendencies that could lead to hurting partners unintentionally. In turn, partners of Dakotas should be aware to not take advantage of their people-pleasing nature. “Let’s just charge one more Champagne bottle to the table, babe,” is a surefire sign of a bad S.O. in Dakota’s life.
Overall, Dakotas can find long-lasting and fulfilling partnership by being self-aware and taking the time to be introspective about their own shortcomings. If Dakotas follow suit, they’ll enjoy the fun, exciting and loving partnership they’ve dreamed of.
Friendships
Friends of Dakota know her to be bright lights in tunnels of darkness. They are the showstopping friend with the funniest jokes and the coolest girls’ night out ideas. Dakotas easily draw in people from all walks of life and especially enjoy sharing the fruits of her outgoing charm with more introverted friends. At the core, Dakota is down-to-earth, so they can totally relate and respect a gentle-hearted soul. However, sometimes Dakotas can turn another cheek to conflict or difficult issues. She needs to come to terms that conflict is part of the package in close relationships.
Dakotas are amazing support systems who love to help friends in need and know their closest confidants will also come through when needed. Her friendships are typically as close or even closer than family. She prides herself on being a helpful and supportive, fun friend.
Career Path & Workplace Habits
Dakotas take their excitement and natural entertaining skills to the workplace where her enthusiastic and outgoing personality draws clients, co-workers, and directors in at rates faster than the average employee. Dakotas use their charm and talent in humor and star power to boost any project they have a part in. Dakotas add that BOOM! to a film, or new ad campaign. This Carefree Charmer wants to be in the midst of all of the exciting action. However, Dakotas must learn that the exciting work takes time to get to, and hard work, patience, and dedication will get her to her dream career. Charm and zeal don’t work alone.
Dakotas are great additions to any workplace with their fun, humorous touch and fervent enthusiasm and charm.
Fun Careers for ESFPs: Actress, Teacher, Fitness Instructor, Musician, Artist, Photographer, Social Worker, Animal Trainer
