You’ve seen them in movies, from “Good Will Hunting” to “Sixth Sense” to “Ordinary People,” read about them in books and probably heard names like “Freud” thrown around in high school. Finding a therapist that’s right for you, though, often isn’t as easy as the movies. And finding a new therapist after your old one no longer feels like a good fit? Talk about anxiety!
With the help of these five simple tips, though, leaving your present therapist may feel like the easiest change you’ve ever made. In fact, you can even find a new therapist that’s perfect for you!
Look in the mirror.
Before you start googling therapists with the dedication of an online shopping addict, you should examine your current therapist-patient relationship. Could your dissatisfaction with your current therapist be a “you” problem instead? Sometimes, we blame lack of change for lack of progress when you might just need more time. In other words, don’t view a new therapist as the magic ingredient to a perfect life. However, if you are having other issues – like your therapist not seeming to listen anymore or getting too friendly – then it’s time to give them the boot.
Out with the old and in with the new.
Like any relationship, you should tell your partner (your therapist in this case) that you’re leaving before scouting your other options. Your therapist (hopefully) behaved professionally and courteously toward you; you should behave the same way to them. I know the “breakup” conversation can seem scary, but it doesn’t have to be. Instead of accusing your therapist of failing you or saying you’re on the hunt for a “replacement,” let them know you want to explore a new perspective on your life or feel like you need a change in order to grow.
Ask around.
You’ve probably heard the saying, “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure.” In the case of therapists, your friend’s so-so therapist might be your perfect fit! Don’t forget to utilize all your resources. Ask your therapist, other patients or even your co-workers and friends if they have any recommendations.
Take your time.
Going right from one therapist to the next can sometimes hurt more than it helps. To put it plainly, it can be tough to pour your heart out to a stranger and have them try to understand and get to know you. Instead, you might enjoy taking a little break in between therapists. As always, though, every person is different and you should consider your own situation when choosing your first appointment date.
Positive thoughts, positive life.
After months or years of meetings, you’ve finally learned to trust, open up to and work with your therapist…only now, you have to start all over. You may feel tempted to see your therapist change as a step backward, but resist the urge! If you approach changing therapists like it’s a huge hassle, you might create your own negative destiny. The more positively you view the situation, the easier – and more rewarding – your adjustment will probably be!
