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Entity discusses the dreaded flirtationship

Flirting. To some it is a sport, to some it is an impossible task. But to most, it is considered a critical stepping stone into what will eventually become a committed relationship.

To be honest, I 400% fall into the first category. It’s okay, flirting is hard. There’s no shame.

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But that doesn’t mean that all flirters want to pursue a committed relationship with the flirtee…right?

Well, that’s just the thing. Flirting, although it can be innocent in nature, can also communicate accidental promises that neither participant can keep. This can complicate an originally simple friendship, condemning it to the eternal in-between phase that no one wants.

So how can you tell if you’re in a committed flirtationship?

 

1 They always find excuses to do the “wow this is more than a friendship” hug

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You know the one. The back rub, the intentional linger past the point of friendship — this person is sending the “I would like our bodies to this close for longer than normal, because I’m a naturally confusing person” (or something along those lines). It conveys that they want more than a friendship, but more than a friendship is never quite what you get.

2 Smiley face texts literally every other text

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Okay, this might seem like a hollow Cosmo that has no actual application in real life.

But think about the difference between these two messages:

Hey! Thanks for giving me a ride the other day. You’re the best!

and

Hey 🙂 Thanks for giving me a ride the other day …you’re the best 🙂

Yeah. It’s the real-life equivalent of the expression depicted above. Just like tone and attitude mean everything in conversation, punctuation means everything in text messages. Smiley faces are fuel to a flirtationship, so pay close attention to how much they are being used.

3 The compliments are relentless, especially in regards physical appearance

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Is he starting to sound like a Valentine’s Day Hallmark card…if Valentine’s Day Hallmark cards were mostly praising your physical appearance? Flirting is meant to be surface level, and a flirtationship doesn’t usually go past those surface-level comments.

4 They say your name a lot…just in general

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Compulsive flirters know people love hearing their name. They might make a cute little song out of it, always say your first and last name when referring to you…don’t ask me why, it’s just a thing. It shouldn’t really be effective in theory; knowing someone’s last name doesn’t exactly showcase a valiant effort in getting to know someone. Nevertheless, it works.

5 He finds bizarre excuses to get his face abnormally close to yours

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Ah yes, the famed flirtationship “almost kiss”. The reasons just seem to make less and less sense. It could be the classic “I’m getting an eyelash off your cheek”, the “I forgot what color your eyes are, let me get really close to check” or “you smell nice, let me just put my face two inches from your nose”…it really doesn’t matter. But he will find some sort of excuse to be in your personal bubble.

6 He flirts when it’s convenient

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When you think back on all of your flirty interactions with this person, do they mostly occur when you both happen to be in the same place by accident? This could be at work, school, etc. If so, this isn’t a bad thing at all. However, if he does not imply that he would like to spend time alone with you, then flirting may basically be a harmless, fun game to him.

7 You feel confused by literally everything he does

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One moment he is touching your face and looking deeply into your eyes, and the next he is kissing another girl on the cheek. One moment he’s sending you more flirty texts than you can count, but his social media is covered with pictures of him posing with other girls. Technically he’s not doing anything wrong, and you’re not breaking any promises by flirting back.

So why does it feel weird? Well, flirting can be harmless, but continuous flirting can be like little promises exchanged between the two of you over time. And if either of you eventually falls out of interest, it can feel like years of promises have been broken. Or it’s just good, plain fun… it really just depends.

So if you find yourself in one of these dreaded flirtationships, seriously consider defining your relationship with that person. The older you get, even a “hey so we’re just flirting right but we’re just friends?” is less awkward than you think…depending on the person. Just like in a relationship, communication is the key to destressing any flirtationship you may encounter.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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