Relationships April 2, 2020
Keep these things in mind when you start seeing someone new.
Starting a new relationship can make you feel giddy and excited, hence why it’s called the, “honeymoon” phase. But, when beginning a new relationship, you may be also be wondering how you know that they’re the right one. Here are the five most important questions to ask in a relationship.
If you’re just looking for a fun relationship that you know probably won’t last forever, you need to be upfront about that. This is one of the most important questions to ask in a relationship. Maybe you really like them and want to see what could happen. Or, if you’re looking for a potential lifetime partner, you both need to be on the same wavelength. An open DTR talk will help the two of you find out what each other expects from the relationship.
If this relationship could be one for the long haul, do you both want to have kids? Do you/they prioritize relationships (with family, friends, and significant others) or work? What fulfills you? Do you have hobbies and interests that you share? The more you have in common with this person, the better the chance that they’re right for you. There are plenty of couples with very different interests, but as long as you both care enough to share in the interests of the other and want the same basic things in life, the better your chances at working out.
The ability to compromise is very important in a relationship. Romantic partners need to be able to meet each other halfway on issues. For example, if you want to go out one night and they want to stay in, you need to come to a compromise that works for you two. Maybe you go out this night and stay in the next, or the opposite. Or maybe you go out and come back early. Whatever you can figure out between the two of you that works. A relationship where one is above the other and always making the decisions won’t last forever.
If you don’t think they would get along well with the people closest to you, maybe they aren’t the one. It’s always awkward being in the middle when it comes to people who don’t like each other, do you really want to spend your life that way? Plus, what is it that your family and friends don’t like about this person? Maybe they see some red flags that you may not have noticed during the honeymoon phase. However, if you can already see the connections they could make with your family and/or friends, this person is someone you should be considering for a relationship.
The number one ingredient to success in any relationship is communication. When asking yourself this question, think about the ease of conversation and the way you both deal with issues. If you know that you will be able to communicate about any issues that arise, especially at the beginning of a new relationship, everything else will be easy to figure out.
