Ariana Grande, 5 Signs You Are Being Slut-Shamed, According to Ariana GrandeAriana Grande

Ariana Grande admitted she felt “sick and objectified” after a horrible experience being slut-shamed by a fan.

The pop princess was out with boyfriend Mac Miller when a male fan congratulated Mac for “hitting that” – right in front of Ariana.

“I am not a piece of meat that a man gets to utilize for his pleasure,” she wrote, in a lengthy note shared to Twitter . But if the distasteful comment wasn’t bad enough, many people responding on social media to Ariana’s trauma seemed to believe she had brought it on herself.

As the debate rolls on, ENTITY identifies five signs that you are being slut-shamed, according to the feminist star.

1 A correlation develops between your art and your bodily autonomy

Ariana was criticized following the incident over how “sexy” her music videos are. Twitter user @dezdecaydance posted, “men consume porn…and anytime a woman objectifies herself  we are there to consume it.$$women benefit off of this$$ STOP.”

Of course, the pop star was not about to take such sexist criticism sitting down, promptly responding to haters, “That’s the thing. Women expressing sexuality is often mistaken for “hi come disrespect me!!!!”..& that’s just not the case.”

She advised her fans and critics alike that it’s important to know that no matter how a person dances or dresses, they still have control over their own body. And it’s no one’s place to decide they have a right to touch them or harass them because of it.

2 Your wardrobe is policed

Some critics of Ariana’s message also cited her sexy costumes and outfits, suggesting she had incited the abuse. Twitter user @jachbyrnes wrote, “how about you take responsibility for the fact that you objectify yourself – and ALL women – to cash in #CallingBullshit.”

But the “Side to Side” hitmaker wasn’t having that either. She took to twitter again to set the record straight, posting, “Women’s choice. our bodies, our clothing, our music, our personalities….. sexy, flirty, fun. it is not. an open. invitation.”

She brought the point home by explaining, “You are literally saying that if we look a certain way, we are yours to take. But we are not !!! It’s our right to express ourselves.”

3 You get slammed by a feminist icon for dancing

Bette Midler is a legend in the entertainment industry, and often uses her platform to share her beliefs. And while that would usually be a good thing, she found herself in a bit of hot water after slut-shaming Ariana during an interview with The Telegraph.

“It’s terrible! It’s always surprising to see someone like Ariana Grande with that silly high voice, a very wholesome voice, slithering around on a couch, looking so ridiculous,” Bette said. “I wish they’d stop… Maybe they tell them that’s what you’ve got to do. Sex sells. Sex has always sold.”

In response, Ariana began by praising Bette for always being a “feminist who stood for women being able to do whatever the F they wanted without judgement.” However, she also wondered where her feminist values had gone. 

She shared an old, scantily-clad snap of Bette, gushing, “I want that sexy mermaid back!!!” Ariana was careful not to start a feud with the star though, including the note, “all love here” along with her post. 

4 Merely being spotted with a member of the opposite sex leads to romance rumors

Ariana famously went off on Twitter about coverage of her following her split with Big Sean in 2015. “I am tired of living in a world where women are mostly referred to as a man’s past, present or future PROPERTY / POSSESSION,” she wrote.

She complained that “if a woman is seen with a friend with a penis, there is an immediate assumption of romance or sex and she is labeled!” Ariana also pointed out the double standard since when a man is spotted with a female friend, he is “celebrated.”

“I can’t wait to live in a world where people are not valued by who they’re dating / married to / attached to, having sex with (or not) / seen with…. but by their value as an individual,” she concluded.

5 You’re not allowed to talk about sex. AT ALL.

Ariana has also spoken out about the double standard that condemns women’s sexuality while celebrating that of men. “If a woman even TALKS about sex openly…. she is shamed!” the performer wrote.

On the flip side, she noted that, “if a man talks or RAPS freely about all the women (or more commonly used “bitches”/“hoes”… how lovely) he’s had… he is regaled.”

Following criticism the outspoken feminist reminded her fans, “women (and men) can express themselves however they’d like !!! even loving sex!! this is not an invitation to be disrespected.”

READ MORE: Serena Williams Gets Candid About Body Shaming and Sexism in Sports

Patriarchal ideals of how women should behave are still widespread in society today – and sexist criticism is perhaps even more prevalent due to the access and anonymity provided by social media.

But if Ariana is any indication, you certainly don’t have to put up with it!