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Entity lists 7 ways to strengthen your long distance relationship.

A long-distance relationship isn’t exactly the first idea that comes to mind when thinking of an ideal partnership. They take a ton of work and it gets lonely at times.

But what most people don’t know is that, when done right, a long-distance relationship can allow for a deeper connection and a more mature relationship compared to a traditional relationship.

It does take some extra effort and will-power from both people, but it’s very possible. These dos and don’ts will not only help in keeping your long-distance relationship intact, but they will also help in preserving your own sanity.

1 Go Out whenever you can.

Staying home and dwelling about how lonely you are isn’t going to help you or your relationship. And like any relationship, it shouldn’t consume all of you. Everyone should have his or her own thing going on. Whether it be a hobby, playing a sport or meeting up with friends, it’s important to have your own life outside of the relationship. This will not only allow you to find joy in everyday activities, but it will also create more things to talk about when you do communicate with your LDR partner.

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2 Don’t Let Insecurity Control Your Communication.

Let’s face it: Being insecure about your relationship – whether it’s long-distance or not – is not healthy. However, being away from your partner can create additional insecurities that makes you want to know who he’s with and what he’s up to at every moment of the day. This urge is uncontrollable, but what is controllable is how you communicate with your partner.

When you constantly check up on him, your significant other will know you’re acting out of insecurity. Therefore, constantly calling and questioning him will only lead to additional arguments about trust. It creates more doubts about the relationship and will eventually tear down positive foundations. It’s important to trust that he or she isn’t going to do anything behind your back.

3 Don’t take Your Partner for Granted.

Nobody wants to be taken for granted. You put yourself out there because you care and it hurts when your partner doesn’t acknowledge that. Showing appreciation for your partner is extremely crucial to a successful long distance relationship.

Even if he was busy at work and he made it a point to give you a quick call, tell him you thought it was thoughtful. Be open about how much you appreciate the everyday efforts he makes. It will show that his efforts don’t go unnoticed. Surprise him by mailing gifts to his house or even surprising him with a visit. These extra acts show your partner that you’re thinking about and appreciating him or her.

4 Be Honest About How You Feel.

While it’s obvious that lying to your partner doesn’t help your relationship, sometimes we think that covering up or downplaying our feelings will help avoid an argument. And when you’re in a LDR, you don’t want to spend moments arguing with each other.

But arguments are inevitable in any relationship. Therefore, it’s important to be open about how you’re feeling and trust that your partner understands. If something is really bothering you, then you should say something and not hold it in. Keeping it bottled up will only create resentment and more insecurity. Your partner is there for you and is committed to making the relationship work, just like you.

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5 Be Available to Communicate.

When both of you live in different cities, states or even countries, you may want to keep yourself busy and distracted. After all, filling your time distracts you from any lonely feelings. But it’s also important to be available to your partner if she wants to talk. This shows you’re there for her.

And if you can’t talk, don’t just ignore her call or message and get back to her later. Pick up the phone and tell her you’ll call right back or respond to her message and let her know you’re busy. These little actions will help keep the bond strong and let your partner know that you care.

This is also important in arguments. Sometimes, when we are upset, we want to be left alone and need some space, but communicate that with your significant other. Don’t just cease communication until you feel better. Tell him or her how you feel and what you need from the relationship.

6 Communicate Through Multiple Mediums.

In a long distance relationship it may become the norm to only talk on the phone or communicate via text, but keeping in touch through other sources lets your partner know you’re thinking about him.

Use FaceTime, Skype or any other platform that will allow you to see each other. Sometimes, just seeing your significant other’s face can make your day so much better. Tag him in posts that make you think of him. Send Snapchats throughout the day, even if it seems boring to you. Keeping your SO in the loop of your life will make him or her feel closer and more connected.

7 Believe in Your Partner and the Relationship.

It’s very easy to get discouraged in a long-distance relationship. While you want the relationship to work, doubt can often seep into your daily thought process and cause negative feelings about the relationship and its future.

Staying positive about the relationship and its potential will not only allow your relationship to blossom, but it will also help with any insecurities that linger. Stay away from ideas like, “seeing where it goes” or “who knows what will happen.” Trust that your partner and relationship is something worth fighting for.

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