You’re snuggled next to your partner, scrolling through Instagram and then you see your friends’ posts. They’re having fun without you. They planned a little shindig or girl’s night out but you didn’t get the memo. You’re thinking, “TFTI!”
As harsh as it sounds, there’s a chance your friends purposely didn’t invite you. “There’s no point to call her, she’s always with her boyfriend anyways,” they are probably thinking.
They will begin to say this often the moment they see you’re too caught up in a relationship. Eventually, they won’t even mention your name anymore because you’ve shown them that your main focus is just your partner.
That’s a red flag. If you don’t balance your relationship and friendships evenly, one side will no longer try. Why? Well, because you stopped trying.
While it’s an amazing feeling to be with someone who just gets you, it isn’t healthy when you forget about everyone else in your life. Here are six ways you can keep your friendships when you’re dating.
Texting is the best way to stay connected and involved in each other’s lives. A simple “How’s your day?” goes a long way. Plus, you don’t want to be the woman who only goes to a friend when you’re fighting with your partner. If your best friend doesn’t say, “You only talk to me when you need my advice” to your face, she’s definitely thinking it.
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Yes texting and calling is a great way to stay in touch, but why not catch up in person? Ask when your friends are free and figure out a day that works for everyone. Some of the best conversations – and Snapchat stories – happen around a table full of food.
Your friends are your friends for a reason: You enjoy doing the same things. Why not be spontaneous with them once in a while? You don’t have to go all out and fly across the country for a luxurious vacation. Simply ask if everyone’s down to go the next concert or music festival. If that’s not your group’s thing, then head over to the nearest amusement park or wine tour event.
Who says you can’t invite your best friend to have dinner or go on a hike with you and your significant other? Your friend will only feel like a third wheel if you make it that way. So leave the PDA at home and just enjoy spending some time with both your friend and your date.
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This is a great way to stay connected with friends who don’t live in the same city as you. The best thing about social media is being able to share what you read, watch and see. It’s nice getting notifications from your friends with words like “Let’s try this!! This is so us. Why did I think of you when I read this? You gotta watch this! If you’re down, I’m down.” If something reminds you of your best friend, tag them!
How do you bring your relationship and friendships together? Comment below!
