When sex is taking too long, you can’t get in the mood and you want it to be over, faking an orgasm is the obvious answer- and you’re not alone in feeling that way.
A new sex study, reported exclusively by ENTITY, shows just how common faking it is – especially by women. It shows 68 percent of females have faked an orgasm with their partners while only 27 percent of men admit to doing the same.
Those are the findings of a survey of 1,000 American men and women and 1,000 European men and women conducted by British online medical service DrEd. com. But a deeper dive into the study results shows just which women are more likely to put on their “O face” and why.
Straight women are more likely to fake it than bisexual or gay women, according to the results.
But the respondent’s answers go a long way to explaining that by echoing what similar studies have found: that lesbian and bisexual women understand better than men, or take more effort towards, how best to stimulate the clitoris and create other sensations that build towards orgasm. In other words, more variety in the bedroom brings better results.
As the report’s authors conclude, “Women who rely on vaginal penetration during sexual intercourse may have a harder time reaching their climax than those who find stimulation in other ways.”
The study also reveals that men who identify as bisexual or gay are significantly more likely to fake an orgasm than straight men – 25 percent of straight men admit to faking it compared to 34 percent bisexual and 48 percent gay.
Americans appear to be the world champions of fake orgasms.
More than half of the total survey participants in the U.S. admitted to having faked it in bed at some point. But of the man and women surveyed in Europe, only 36 percent admitted to the same deception.
Americans also gave their sexual partners a lower performance rating between the sheets than the Europeans did. Among Americans, 46 percent considered their lovers’ sexual talents below average compared with 35 percent in Europe.
So what are we to conclude from that? It can only be that Europeans do it better – or think they do.
When women and men admit to their partner they have faked a climax, the different genders tend to react differently to the bad news.
More than one in five men said they got into a fight about it and 15 percent said their relationships broke up over them faking it.
But of the women who had told their partners they were the ones faking it, 31 percent said their partners had decided to try harder to please them in bed.
Sensitivity counts in the bedroom – and beyond. “Women are especially more likely to fake an orgasm with their partner because they don’t want to hurt their feelings,” states the report.
The survey also finds that both men and women are more inclined to fake their orgasm in long-term relationships than in one night stands. That shows they they may be less satisfied but would rather their partner thinks their needs are being fulfilled.
As for how faking it makes them feel, more men than women feel ashamed – nine percent of men feel that as opposed to 4.7 percent of women. The report concludes, “Men are more inclined to the prescribed rules and expectations of their gender where sexual performance is concerned, making it hard to feel comfortable when they’re faking it.”
Only eight percent of women feel annoyed they have to fake orgasms and 15 percent feel guilty about it. On the other side of the bed those numbers for men are 10 percent and 11 percent.
But 54 percent of men and 48 percent of women said they felt neutral about faking it.
It seems to us there are plenty of people pretty unhappy between the sheets – especially women.
Another point that stands out from the study is that men are almost five times more likely than women to reach their climax every time. Time to change those numbers, ladies.
For all the figures on faking it, read the full study here.
