Relationships July 7, 2017
6. Change your ex's name to Darth Vader on your phone.
Photo via Instagram / @two_lines_awesome_shayariIn romantic relationships, you experience new things, you have someone to confide in and you completely share who you are with another person. But when these relationships come to an end, it can get pretty devastating. Like, ugly-cry-on-your-bed-with-tubs-of-ice-cream devastating.
At this point, you probably need help learning how to get over someone you once never wanted to forget.
It seems impossible, we know. But not all hope is lost. To prove it, we’ve compiled a list of the best Reddit advice on the topic, especially when you’re feeling like this particular user.
“Every day I make progress into thinking less and less of her and focusing on now. But … every day I wake up thinking of her. And I don’t like that, nor want that anymore,” one Reddit user explained. “It feels like a hangover without drinking. How do I stop that, guys?”
In the same boat? Keep reading.
“My strategy is to let myself feel what I feel, to let myself be sad. After a while (the longest was about 15 months), those feelings go away and I can go on with my life.”
“Getting over someone is a lot like getting over a sickness. It’s not something you can wish away, and it’s not something you can simply ‘get over.’ There is more to it than that.”
“If you have the flu or a cold do you say to yourself, ‘Oh I’ll just get up and feel better now because that’s what I need to do?’ Of course not. That would not only be irrational, but also incredibly misinformed.
“If you go out and keep stressing your body out and try to pretend like you’re not sick, you usually end up getting more sick before you get better. Or just prolonging the sickness itself.”
“I think it’s only natural to hate being sick, to hate being taken out of your [comfort] zone. It sucks, but if you are practical about it and you take care of yourself, the odds are it will make dealing with the sickness much easier in real time.
“That’s just reality. Take care of yourself.”
“I cut off all contact, and even stopped talking about her. Then I worked to fill my life with interesting shit that involved other people. After a couple weeks, it totally worked.”
“Deleting her phone number didn’t work for [me] because I knew it from memory. What worked even better for me was changing her name in my contacts to something ridiculous (e.g. Darth Vader or George Bush). If I ever thought about calling or texting her, I’d see that and remember that it would be a bad idea.”
“Dude you just need to do what I always do. Go for a walk somewhere quiet. Preferably somewhere in nature like a forested area. Take deep breaths. Look all around you and realize how big the earth really is.
“Understand that there’s a million other people in the world just like her and that she isn’t as important as you think. And [then] find the perfect place to hide her body.”
Okay, so maybe that last line isn’t the best advice, but we hope it at least made you laugh. Best of luck on your journey.
