Relationships April 8, 2020
Who wouldn't want to connect deeply with their partner in intricate and meaningful ways?
I’m sure that when you hear the words “relationship therapy,” the first thing that comes to mind is, “this is our last resort to save what we have.” Truthfully you don’t need to have problems to seek relationship therapy. It is not exclusive to relationships that are struggling. Everyone can benefit from learning the tools to have everlasting love. You just have to be open to putting in the work. Vulnerability and honesty are the building blocks to making it work in your favor.
Sometimes just talking with your partner isn’t enough to get the most out of your relationship. Two separate beings encompass many different and opposing opinions. People come from different backgrounds and have varying experiences growing up. Those things can affect your relationship in unexpected ways. You most definitely will not see eye to eye on everything.
Seeking advice through relationship therapy allows you both to express yourself openly. An outside source who doesn’t know either of you allows for them to be objective. They can listen to both sides of anything you want to discuss. Bias should be non-existent so they can give advice that caters to both of your feelings. You can’t forget that they have trained to help people, like you, to the best of their abilities.
When you are in it for the long haul with your partner there are so many issues that can arise over the years. Underlying stressors on your relationship that go undiscussed will fester. Being able to communicate effectively is the fine line between make or break.
One day you might travel together to new, unfamiliar places you’ve never been to. You may choose to get married, buy a house, and have kids one day. You also may face hardships in your finances, in your health, and in your family dynamics.
Talking about topics that make you uncomfortable can lead to misunderstanding or arguing. If you both genuinely take the time to learn different communication strategies in couples therapy, it will change the future of your relationship.
Learning your love language has been a new tool that couples have found useful in understanding each other. People genuinely are interested in learning how to love their partners in the best ways possible. Reading and implementing resources only helps if you are dedicated to learning them. Being consistently aware of your partner’s feelings takes practice. You may need a helping hand.
Couples therapy is more extensive. It truly lets you get an inside look into your partner. Learning what makes your partner tick lets you know how they operate. You are able to talk about your passions and what makes your heart beat hardest. You learn the goals and dreams you want to take on. It helps you determine what you want to get out of the life you build together. Ultimately, you will understand each other on a deeper level that may have not existed before.
The spark and fire are strong when you are first starting out a relationship. You want to connect and talk about your feelings. You definitely are probably expressing yourselves physically. But what happens after time has gone on or the flame has dimmed?
Going to couples therapy helps you identify what happened and the causes why. When you are not cognizant of your partner’s feelings it can lead to not knowing how to talk to each other. Sex and intimacy are harder to talk about when there is a disconnect in satisfaction. It’s a more sensitive subject.
Being in a safe space allows both partners to express concerns without judgment. If you put in the effort to understand both of your wants and needs, this will lead to a stronger connection.
You placing yourself in the environment of relationship therapy opens the door to trusting your partner implicitly. If you can’t trust your partner you will hold resentment and doubts in your relationship. Going through the sessions only helps you build trust with one another. You learn who they are as a person and partner. Understanding that you can rely on someone implicitly makes you feel safe and secure.
Going through relationship therapy can feel scary and confusing. You may feel privacy is more important than publicly working through things. But if you both take the steps together, there is only good that can come out of it. You’ll learn how to be the best partner you can be. You will learn how to build a relationship that thrives. Ultimately you’ll gain the tools to allow your everlasting love to flourish.
