Relationships March 26, 2020
Lets do, what we do best: Talk.
Every woman wants or looks for advice to help make their relationship better. The top relationship advice for women I have to offer is simple. In addition, did I mention that I am a woman too? This advice has helped my relationship tremendously.
“What is your heart telling you to do? Whatever it is telling you to do be sure to follow it. Follow the melody of your heart. Follow the spirit that is within for it will never lead you in harm’s way. Trust that gut feeling that arises in the pit of your stomach often times than none.” – Destiny Thomas writer from Black Girl In OM.
Before entering any relationship, you should know yourself. You have to know what your wants and what your needs are. Essentially, “self-love” is a shortened way to say the above. If you don’t know how to take care of yourself, how can you tell someone else how to love you? So, ladies, the next best thing is to have a conversation with yourself and indulge in some self-love practices.
Another piece of relationship advice is to lose your ego. Do not be reactive, be proactive. In the Red Table Talk, Jada Smith (wife of Will Smith) talks about losing your ego and being vulnerable.
When I say Ego, I mean attitudes. Your ego will want to say hurtful and mean things to your partner that can never be taken back.
Kim Pratt, writer at Healthy Psych has an article where she talks about 20 ways to let go of Egotism in exchange for a healthy ego. These tips were taken from David Richo, who has a Ph.D.
One of the ways to let the ego go was to, “Simply pause with compassion toward the pain in his/her ego-reaction and treat it with loving-kindness, while nonetheless not putting up with any abuse.” – David Richo
Remember, come from a place of love and compassion, even if you are upset as well. Proactive and not reactive.
ENTITY contributing writer Samantha Diaz gives this nugget of advice in her article Questions to Ask Your Partner When Your Love Is Starting to Fizzle Out:
“Talk to your partner…Find ways that you and your significant other can agree on to create a stronger foundation for the relationship.”
In addition to losing your ego, communicating as honestly as possible is the best way to go. Do not shut down during any kind of tension or argument, always be willing to communicate.
The advice that I have given is all related. The common denominator is communication:
Finally, the last additional piece (a fourth tip if you will) is active listening. Listen to yourself and to your partner. Do not interrupt their talking and make sure they do not interrupt you.
Listen with the intent of listening. Know when it’s time to walk away and then return with a clear head. At the end of the day, you love this person and your partner loves you. Remember, love should be at the heart of every conversation.
