Relationships August 13, 2018
If you're not beating it, then beat it!
For some reason, it’s taboo to have conversations on ways to masturbate. But masturbation can actually be good for you! Don’t be embarrassed for wanting to participate in this completely natural process.
If you’re feeling like a novice when it comes to self-pleasure, here’s the low-down on the best ways to masturbate.
Getting your first sex toy can be scary, but it will also change your masturbating life. A vibrator can help you achieve pleasure on a completely new level.
But you don’t have to dive off the deep end right away. Start off with a small bullet vibrator if something bigger is too intimidating. In the future, you can work your way to larger sizes. Soon you’ll be shamelessly surfing on the internet for more.
If you don’t know where to start, check out Love Honey. They’ve got the very basics and everything is delivered in an inconspicuous, unlabeled brown box. You can buzz your way to happiness, and no one will be the wiser.
It can be tempting to stick a finger up there and dive right in. But first, you should keep some information in mind.
In her book “The Button,” Wednesday Martin explains that Freud had popularized the notion that “vaginal” orgasms are more womanly than “clitoral” orgasms. But the clitoris has eight thousand nerve endings, making it 14 times more sensitive than the penis. And unlike the penis, it is the only human organ dedicated entirely to sexual pleasure. So in order to orgasm, you’re probably going to need some clitoral stimulation.
Also, you may believe that it’s more difficult for people with vaginas to orgasm. This is wrong. Vaginas can actually produce more repetitive, continuous orgasms than penises can in the same amount of time.
If you haven’t reached orgasm yet, this fact might discourage you. You might even believe that you can’t orgasm.
This is also almost certainly wrong. The issue might involve your mindset. Orgasm researcher Barry Komisaruk, PhD tells the American Psychology Association, “Orgasm is a very complex function that involves the whole autonomic system and a huge amount of brain activity.”
This effort requires you to be relaxed in order to reach an orgasm. It also requires you to be in tune with the rest of your body. So explore! People have tons more erogenous zones than just your genitals. Feel your body, sit back and relax.
Sometimes, one method just doesn’t cut it. You can use a combination of ways to masturbate. All orgasms are different, and some people need both clitoral and vaginal stimulation to reach climax.
Try fingering yourself first, and then add clit stimulation when you feel the orgasm building. It’ll give you that extra oomph to push you over when you’re feeling that edge.
A recent review states that “All published scientific data point to the fact that the G-spot does not exist,” but other researchers state that there is still a sensitivity in vaginal walls. So stimulating the walls where the G-spot was thought to exist may be beneficial!
The so-called G-spot supposedly feels a little more rough than the rest of your vagina. Once you find the spot, use a ‘come hither’ motion with your fingers.
Try it out for a little while. If it doesn’t feel like it works, explore other areas. If it does, keep going. Pay attention to your body, and determine when you need to add the double trouble.
If you’re finding this a little technically different, try using both hands. Stimulate your vagina with one and your clitoris with the other. You’ll feel less cramped for space this way.
There’s a common misconception about using your pointer finger to pleasure yourself. Maybe because it seems to make common sense; after all, we use our pointer finger probably the most.
In actuality, though, you might find it best to use your middle and ring finger. They’ll hit that perfect angle better than your pointer. In addition, these two are our weaker fingers. Believe it or not, you do need to be rather gentle with the clitoris and vaginal opening. Remember those eight thousand nerve endings? Be nice to them!
This might seem cliche, but it’s essential. These are all ways to masturbate, but some ways work better for one person and less for another. Maybe you’ll hate something that your best friend loves. Every vagina is different, which is why practice is so important.
Take the time to really get to know your body. No partner can immediately know how certain moves will make you feel. In fact, you’re the only one who can know how your body will react!
Don’t be embarrassed to try everything. Your body is a beautiful thing, and you’re stuck with it for the rest of your life. Maybe it’s time to start understanding it.
Have fun, and happy exploring!
