Boy Bye: How to Stay Strong When Your Ex Texts You

Relationships are about communication. And if you legitimately don’t feel like talking to him, be straight up. Tell him you want be all alone and to not take it personal. Whatever you do, don’t play games.

Now, if you’re trying to get the man of your dreams or trying to move on from your trifling ex, then this advice is perfect for you.

The best way to stay strong is the importance of not responding.

If the guy you’ve been obsessing over for the past year finally shoots you a text saying, “hey!” you need to make him work a little harder. Don’t jump at the chance of him finally interacting with you. Not responding will give yourself a boost of confidence and make you feel in control.

Now, it’s not about being mean or snobby, it’s about making him showing that he’s actually interested in you. And if he is, then he’ll pursue you. And if not, then he’ll probably never reach out to you again. Which means he wasn’t right for you anyway.

This is all conditional. If dude is pouring out his soul and confessing his love for you, then you owe him a response.

And if you’re trying to move on from your two time cheating ex, a no scrubs policy is obviously the best for you and your health. It’s clearly easier said than done, especially when the break up is fresh. Hell, it’s even hard when an ex comes out of the wood works years later and texts you.

But whenever the text comes, saying “boy bye” will prove to yourself that you have standards. It might be hard in the moment, but you’ll eventually forget about it and be stronger for it.

And if it’s really hard for you to control yourself from your ex, then you should probably do the damn thing and block him.

Overall, in either scenario, if your will power is fading, then distract yourself. Call your best friend. Go see a movie and leave your phone at home. Rock out to some Paramore. Anything to get your mind off of him.

Because the truth is, in both situations you deserve a guy who values how important you are. And the only way to get that guy is for you to value how important you are. It’s cliché, but it’s true.