Sloane, The Graceful Captain (INTJ)
Overview
How does it feel to be a diamond in the rough? You’re rare, baby, one in a million. You’re one badass babe. Women make up less than 1 percent of this personality type. Sometimes you might feel a bit lonely knowing there’s not many out there like yourself. This doesn’t get Sloanes down though - you have the sharpness of a tack and the strategic maneuvering of Queen Elizabeth. Sloanes never let time go to waste - you stride into a boardroom with sharp, inquisitive, yet imaginative ideas. You’re a striver, always searching for the next ladder up.
Famous INTJs: Michelle Obama, Hillary Clinton, Jane Austen, Katie Couric, Susan B Anthony, Emily Bronte and Jodie Foster
Strengths
Sloanes are cynical optimists - what?!? Yeah! You both believe strongly in your team and your dreams, but also are deeply aware of the roadblocks, struggles and realistic parameters of these goals. You are the crystal ball to your friends and colleagues - your Encyclopedia Britannica wealth of knowledge and foresight into projects or plans makes you a key asset to the people around you. You’ve probably discovered a world-changing idea by the end of this paragraph, you go, girl!
Common Strengths: High Self Confidence, Determination, Drive. Strategic, Imaginative, Quick-Thinking Mind.
Weaknesses
However, like many other rare personality types, you can often be misunderstood. You’re “The Devil Wears Prada”’s fearsome head-woman-in-charge Miranda Priestly or “Gossip Girl” queen bee Blair Waldorf - your steely presence is both your strong suit and weakness. You prefer to be the chess master, relying on calculations and quiet judgments that garner fear, awe, and respect. People might say you lack emotional intelligence - but that’s not true! Once people truly get to know you, your icy layers are melted away to reveal a strong moral character and thoughtful heart.
Common Weaknesses: Prone to arrogance, Passing quick judgments and Overly critical. Hates being told what to do and not always adept in the carefree nature and unpredictability of romance.
Romantic Relationships
The song “No Scrubs” may have been written just for you. You don’t have time for games of any kind and won’t tolerate anything less. You look at relationships like a mathematical equation and have a difficult time throwing care to the wind. That’s okay, though! Humans are not just one romantic comedy trope after another - you know that someone pulling “The Notebook” and writing you a letter every single day or building a house for you (without even noting your decor preferences or running the layout by you!!!) is illogical and, honestly, unhealthy. Despite a reputation as an ice queen, your trepidation at outlandish gestures or chivalry is a great protective asset. Any person can initially hide their horrible selves behind flowers and gifts, but you are able to see past the rose-colored glasses of new love and see people for who they truly are and not who they pretend to be.
You prioritize honesty and open communication - like we said, you are not playing any games. You are straightforward and face conflict cool, calm and collected. The key is finding someone who will mesh with your to-the-point style and #noBS type of love. Since you are so open and honest, once you do let your steely exterior melt, you’re left deeply hurt by a break-up or rejection. Remember that even the most calculated, planned and open romance is still subject to life’s ups and downs. Whether life’s ups and downs with a partner who shares at least two of your traits, especially people with Feeling, Extraversion or Prospecting in their types.
Sloanes like you shine brightest when they are holding court at their favorite bar, leading a new project at work or even captaining your rec sports team. Sloane’s determination and confident manner are very attractive to those around you. Like Kelis (possibly) once said, “My passion, confidence, and dedication bring the dates to the yard.”
Friendships
Sarcasm and dark-humored souls to the front! Your no-BS approach to romance also goes for friendships as well. You bond with people who can laugh in darkness and pontificate the world’s craziness with both biting AND hilarious sarcasm. You also have no patience for perceived ignorance, laziness or uninspiring people. Just like romance, you’re seeking friends who offer the same quest for intellectual pursuit and growth you seek for yourself. Fellow Analysts or Diplomats are your most likely friends.
Career Path & Workplace Habits
Ever the groundbreaking leader, you stand apart from the pack and don’t thrive in administrative positions or anything that has rigid expectations. Sloanes do not like being told to tamper down their ideas or to go on a coffee run. Telling Sloanes to go to Starbucks for a Venti White Mocha Latte with three Splendas, steamed almond milk, a dash of cinnamon and extra vanilla powder stirred with seven napkins is a surefire way to send them jetting away to a more rewarding and innovative job. Sloanes prefer to work solo, or to lead small, creative teams. You’re most likely to be a lawyer, software engineer or freelancer, where you would be able to make your own rules and lead with intention, imagination, and drive.
