Along with location, date and of course the dress, the decision to write your own wedding vows or recite the traditional finds itself at the top with the most difficult choices to make when it comes to your wedding.
Wedding vows are a little in the muddy water category. While some favor the vows that married their parents, grandparents and so on, some feel that personal are the way to go.
Traditional vows are said to sometimes fall more to the religious, but they still hold much meaning to all. As All Heart Wedding states, the vows date all the way back to the middle ages to the “Book of Common Prayer.”
All Heart Wedding claims about 100 years later on September 12, 1922 the word “obey” in the bride’s vow was replaced with “love, honor and cherish”, but for those who don’t mind the word obey, they can still recite the original.
There may not a written history of 300+ years when it comes to written vows, but there is definitely much meaning behind each word. Reciting personal vows can be a bonding experience that you can remember forever.
Writing your vows allows you to personally express your feelings towards your significant other having the chance to speak from your heart can be an unforgettable experience for both of you.
When Johanie Martinez was asked about her and her husband’s decision to write their own vows over traditional, her response held deep meaning dating back to the history of her parents:
“My husband and I wrote our vows. I liked that a lot because I’m a writer, obviously, and it was a nice way for us to bond. The traditional vows are nice but because they’re traditional and have been broken so many times, I didn’t want to just repeat what my parents said to only get divorced seven years later. I wanted us to have realistic vows and also to speak from the heart. It worked.”
The decision can sometimes be a tough choice. A meaningful history vs. some powerful personal words. If you find yourself unable to make a choice, you can always do a little bit of both and intertwine the traditional with the written.
