strong woman bends not breaks

Life throws a lot of curveballs. A death, a breakup, a bad day at work, a bank account that is perpetually negative. Sometimes life is so difficult it feels impossible to take a breath, even for a strong woman.

I know because I’ve been there. I’ve cried in my car like a crazy person, grieved a loss, and wondered where my next rent check might come from … because it sure as heck wasn’t coming from my empty checking account.

In those moments, when the walls feel like they’re closing in and your options are limited, you have to remind yourself of one thing. They can’t break you.

You may bend for a moment, or a day, or a month. And that’s okay.

Give yourself permission to have a meltdown. Cry on your kitchen floor in the middle of the night. Sit on your couch and binge “Friends” for the 15th time because it makes you forget your problems. Go to bed at 8 pm. Or stay in bed until 8 pm, whatever works for you. Because while you are collapsing into despair you know one thing to be true. It is only temporary. They can’t break you. And this too shall pass.

Why? Because you are stronger than you realize. You have a lifetime of experience battling back the s**t life tosses your way. And you have the wounds to prove it. But all of them — the terrifying, debilitating, treacherous moments — make you stronger, not weaker.

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Scars on your heart from past relationships have taught you what you really want in a life partner. You want to be put first not last. And you don’t want to chase someone who never chases you back.

Tears cried over toxic friendships have taught you what it takes to be a better human being. You know the true meaning of loyalty and surround yourself with others who value it as much as you do. When you finally let someone in, you know it’s for life.

A crushed soul from lashings at work has given you thicker skin. And shown you the type of life you don’t want to lead. You will live your life with compassion, not anger.

Ripped jeans and frozen dinners remind you to keep pushing for your dream, because you won’t be poor forever. You know in your heart you won’t settle for this life and you will work as hard as it takes to get you there.

A shaken mind, from the anxiety, the stress, the depression has taught you to reach out for help when you need it. You’ve become more open and learned you are not alone.

And the unfortunate events, the sudden deaths and unfair circumstances that are simply out of your control have taught you life is precious. Life is random. And life can certainly be unfair.

You see, you’ve been through so much already, but there’s so much more left to do. Which is why, when the moment comes that you feel like you’re just about to break you do not.

Instead, you bend.

And all the strength that you’ve gathered over the years from every shitty moment comes in at the last second to support you. Just like you always knew it would.

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