Heather Monahan Can Build Your Confidence with Two Simple Words

If you haven’t heard of Heather Monahan, then you haven’t had the fastest, most effective confidence boost of your life.

Heather Monahan is a bestselling author, Glass Ceiling Award winner, one of 2017’s most Influential Women on radio and certified confidence booster. However, her success was not handed to her on a golden platter.

Heather Monahan posing with her bestselling book, “Confidence Creator.” Image via Instagram/@heathermonahan

At EntityMag’s 2018 Love Yourself Summit, Monahan explained how humble her beginnings really were.

“I grew up very poor. My mother left my biological father with four small children and no job. We moved into a trailer, and we lived on food stamps.”

Despite these hardships, Monahan was a classic glass-half-full optimist; she explained how the amount of resources she didn’t have only fueled her desire to succeed.

“From coming from nothing…I found drive. Drive for me was the single thing I could move to. All the way I outworked everyone. That’s the only lever I could pull.”

Heather Monahan at an interview for Sirius XM. Image via Instagram/@heathermonahan

In classic rags-to-riches style, Monahan worked her way from the bottom to the top. Starting with a paper route, then waitressing, then bartending, she eventually worked her way to sales. And being the hard worker that she is, sales was where she found her niche.

In one year, Monahan became the #1 seller at a well-established winery. She took a $25 million property and turned it into a $55 million property value in just three years.

But despite her success, her confidence was on a slippery slope.

“Back then, I associated my confidence with my net worth. I thought I was meaningful because I created value. That’s where I thought my confidence came from. And that’s where I struggled.”

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She described how her confidence hit rock bottom after being fired from that company, due to the new CEO’s dislike of her. Monahan contributed the depression she felt to poorly-grounded confidence; she had been finding self-worth in all the wrong places.

In that moment, she decided to take control of her own confidence-building.

“I started off with a 30-day plan to rebuild my confidence. I would set small goals, cause baby steps and small goals are key to building confidence.”

Little by little, Monahan started to rebuild her sense of self-worth. She began replacing “I’m sorry” with “excuse me,” or even “thank you for your patience” if the situation permitted it.

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She even found a way to restructure an unfortunate situation, her employment termination, into a tool for empowerment. Instead of seeing it as “being fired,” she labeled it as the day she fired a negative person from her life.

“Firing negative people from your life is the single strongest, most powerful thing that you can do to build confidence.”

This, along with several other techniques in her book, provide women of all ages with countless tools to build their confidence. We were fortunate enough to hear her speak in person, but you are welcome to check out her book “Confidence Creator” if you are looking for more ways to build your confidence every single day.