When you picture tall, dark and handsome, you probably aren’t seeing a guy that’s ready to share his innermost thoughts with you. You’re probably envisioning a man with his emotional shields up, his intimate side fortified by a brick wall.
But the intense smolder and piercing eyes are really a well-practiced mask that hides natural human emotions. Many men suppress their sensitivity so they are perceived as they think they should be in society: calm, cool and collected – not a kaleidoscope of emotions.
The sensitive man is one who may take a while to reveal his true self, but is certainly well worth the wait. Here are four reasons to date a sensitive man.
Dictionary defines “sensitive” as “having acute mental or emotional sensibility; aware of and responsive to the feelings of others.” The sensitive man is more likely to be aware of when you need to talk and respectful of what you have to say. He would want the same from you! When you’re venting about a problem, the sensitive man will listen to where you’re coming from so he can better connect with you and understand your reactions to the situation.
As partner to a sensitive man, your job is to communicate exactly what you need. Listening is crucial to effective communication, as it breeds room for mutual growth and understanding in a relationship.
This usually doesn’t happen right away. Creating an environment that’s comfortable enough for him to want to share is key. A sensitive man needs someone who is observant – who will see when he wants or needs to share and will offer counsel and support as needed. If you want your relationship to healthily grow, it’s important that you both welcome opportunities to disclose vulnerabilities with one another.
A sensitive man needs to be in an environment in which he feels safe enough to share his feelings, or else he is likely to become distant and even more hesitant to share in the future. Sharing eases his emotional burden and strengthens your relationship bond.
The relationship is important to a sensitive man. He values what you have together and will strive to maintain a healthy connection. Maybe this means he goes to regular therapy sessions or maybe he makes continuous efforts to support you and the relationship. Maybe you both decide that every Friday night is your date night and that committing to go out to dinner each week helps each of you come together and bring the week to a close.
Whatever you decide to do, a sensitive man will always want the best for you and will do what he can to assist you – just as you would for him.
Because he is sensitive, the sensitive man feels strongly about what you share intimately in your relationship. Oftentimes, he wants you to show you love him as much as he loves you. In a relationship, expressing affection is just as valuable as receiving it – a sensitive man will pick up on the little things you do to convey your love and will, in turn, reciprocate.
Though they may not reveal themselves to be sensitive the first few times you interact with them, sensitive men eventually lower their masks. The more you get to know them the soon you will be able to identify the dynamics of your relationship. This process is one of communication: a tango of listening and sharing. Because of his capacity to love and express himself with clarity, you might find your relationship is healthy and intimate in a way that makes you sure it will go the distance.
