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Entity explains that being vulnerable doesn't make you a bad mother.

As a mother, you are the rock of your family. You are a woman who knows how to keep your composure in a room of sick, crying, hungry or upset children. If your family needs something, you are the first to make the necessary sacrifices. But just because you want to give your family everything doesn’t mean you are required to be the solution to all of life’s problems.

Showing vulnerability and being able to recognize when you need help shouldn’t be attributed to weakness. Sometimes parenting is stressful, overwhelming or confusing. Because of this, it’s nearly impossible to always be the perfect supermom. When things go wrong, remember that it’s okay to ask for help or to break down. Here are some reasons why.

1 You can prevent yourself from getting burnt out.

Children require a great deal of attention, support and time. If you’re trying to juggle being a businesswoman and a mother on your own, then your energy and mental health will eventually suffer the consequences. According to Forbes, getting burnt out can come in many forms: exhaustion, lack of motivation, frustration or cynicism.

When you feel constantly tired or frustrated, it can interfere with your relationship with your family. Forbes writes that getting burnt out can lead to “more conflicts with other people [or withdrawal].” You can end up on either end of the spectrum; you can end up either endlessly frustrated or endlessly disconnected.

2 Asking for help gives you time to take care of yourself.

Asking for help balances the responsibility and gives you more free time to take care of yourself. Paying for a babysitter one night a week or asking your partner to pitch in after work will relieve some of the burdens of motherhood. As Huffington Post explains, “Mom self-care is non-negotiable.”

When you feel great about yourself and your lifestyle, then you are less likely to get irritated and more likely to use your energy to create fun memories with your family. Huffington Post also advises that taking care of yourself “allows you to share more of who you are with your family.” How can you be a supermom if you lose yourself in the process of taking care of other people?

3 Crying will make you feel better.

When you are overwhelmed, sometimes crying is the immediate solution. According to WebMD, crying releases stress hormones from the body, thus allowing your to relieve “a buildup of energy with feelings.” Jodi De Luca, a neuropsychologist at Tampa General Hospital, tells WebMD that crying can also be a survival mechanism. She says, “When you cry, it’s a signal you need to address something.” Sometimes, crying is the cue you need to ask someone for help.

4 Asking for help can lead to better decisions.

What happens when you don’t know how to do something? Parenting is difficult to do alone. You will often need your parents, your friends, your spouse or even other parents to guide you with difficult tasks. How often should you discipline your kids? What do you do when they’re constantly giving you an attitude? These shouldn’t be questions you address on your own.

According to the Abington Jefferson Health website, it’s necessary to be an educated parent because “Parenting is the most important and challenging job any of [you] can have; yet, it receives little support or recognition in our society.” As a result, “Parents are often [left] isolated and without adequate support networks.”

Being vulnerable will help you in the long run. Remember that asking for help will give you the security and support you need to take care of yourself in order to better care for your family.

Edited by Ellena Kilgallon
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