Relationships June 21, 2017
Boyfriend troubles are just a bubble in a champagne glass.
Ever been in a relationship that looks good from the outside, but on the inside leaves you feeling unfulfilled as to what a relationship should really be like?
It’s always important to keep in mind that a relationship should bring happiness to your life — in other words, the good times should outweigh the bad ones.
Think of what Sherry Argov says in “Why Men Love Bitches” — “When you meet someone who is truly great, he makes you believe you can be great, too. This is the kind of relationship you want, and it’s the only kind of relationship worth having.”
To help you get closer to that fulfilling relationship, ENTITY shares seven ways to know if you’ve been dating the wrong guy:
You’re dating the wrong guy if you’re more surprised that he actually remembered about an event than forgetting it for the millionth time.
Let’s face it, the guy you’re with should be your number one supporter, physically and emotionally. If it’s important to you, it should be important to him.
If your guy only talks about himself while talking about his future, and the word “we” never comes up in conversations about the future together, chances are he’s not into a future with you.
A few years into your relationship you should have an open and honest communication of what the future could look like for the both of you together.
Does your guy make every excuse not to bring you over to his family gatherings? You might want to reconsider how seriously he takes your relationship.
Especially if his family is a big part of his life. Your boyfriend should want you to be around the most important people in his life.
Don’t ever allow anyone to define your worth. You deserve to feel your absolute best and no one should ever make you feel any less than you deserve.
Remember, you weren’t put on this Earth for a stupid guy to make your feel like you’re anything than less than worth it.
Argov says in her book that the “most attractive quality of all is dignity.” Hold yourself to a higher standard.
No matter how big or small your dreams may be, your partner should respect them and encourage you to pursue them fearlessly.
There is nothing more satisfying than being with someone who has your back and wants to see you succeed.
Never bother with a man that doesn’t have drive or ambition in his own life and career. You’ll be setting yourself up for disappointment, and in return he may not be the supportive partner you feel you need.
Don’t expect him to lift you up when he’s dragging himself down.
Okay ladies, seriously this is probably one of the most annoying and frustrating things to deal with in your relationship, and the truth is that you’re never going to change those bad habits.
Someone who is constantly playing you for a fool and is being sneaky is not looking out for your best interest. Nothing promising comes out of someone who is constantly lying.
John Gotteman, Director of the Relationship Research Institute in Seattle, Washington and an emeritus psychology professor at the University of Washington, suggests that “couples who were best at developing trust and loyalty in the relationship were those who focused on maximizing the well-being of their partner, not themselves.”
Love and respect yourself enough to walk away from a situation that is no longer serving its purpose in your life.
And if you do decide to leave, remember that you’re not leaving him for making too many mistakes — you’re leaving him because he made the same mistake too many times.
Don’t be afraid to do what’s right for you. No one will have your best interest other than yourself. At the moment things may seem a little foggy, if they don’t quite workout with your guy, it’s okay.
You will see better days, I promise! If he values you in his life, he will take the necessary steps to prove to you that you deserve to be treated with the same love and respect that you show him.
