Relationships November 20, 2017
She's not your average woman.
Okay, so you’ve caught the feels. Should we say “congratulations” or “sorry for your loss”?
Now don’t get us wrong, falling in love is incredible. You get this awesome rush of endorphins, you can’t stop smiling, and you’re constantly stuck in a movie montage of the happiest moments of your life.
However, you’ve probably also lost a lot of things, i.e. your sense of rationality, calmness, breathing normally, and your overall sanity. How can this be such a good and bad thing at the same time?
Well, the good news is, you don’t fall in love like everyone else. Your brain might be working on overdrive, but that doesn’t mean you’ve lost your sense of self.
We have more than a few reasons why strong women (A.K.A. you), fall in love just a little differently than the average Joe or Josephine.
Ok, she might be head over heels for someone, but she still has a strong head on her shoulders. Despite all the happy chemicals flooding her brain from falling in love, if you cross a boundary that she has set, she will be zapped right out of happy land.
Strong women have a good idea of what it means to be respected, and rule #1 of respect is respecting boundaries. Have we said respect enough?
Okay, most of the time, she probably wants to hang out with the guy in question. And why not? Her brain is literally full of love chemicals, so she’s basically essentially love-crazed.
However, she still keeps her “recharge time” sacred. She needs her time to look however she wants, do whatever she wants, and invest in the aspects of herself that require solitude. And yes, night cheese falls into that category.
Strong women tend to make friends with strong women, so you can only imagine how protective they get when a squad member falls victim to falling in love.
This doesn’t mean that they will automatically hate the guy, but they will definitely do thorough background checks, if not in-person interviews, to make sure their girl will be treated right.
Strong women are usually pretty progressive women…at least in the sense that they will initiate a lot of the “courting” rituals. She knows what dates she enjoys, she has taken her man’s opinion into account, and she will probably plan the best date of their lives. If it’s Groupon-able, it’s possible.
She does not do anything half-heartedly, and the area of romance is no exception.
The man of her interest will never have to second-guess and wonder if she actually feels the way she does. She is not interested in games, and mixed signals are never her cup of tea. If she is falling in love with someone, they’ll know.
So loving a strong woman might be slightly unusual, but hopefully, this experience is not an uncommon one. A strong woman (and man) make a solid foundation for a healthy relationship, and eventually, a long and healthy marriage.
