Relationships April 11, 2018
How strong? Pearson strong.
How does one detect the early signs of a good relationship? Well, when dating a strong a woman, it’s pretty easy to pick out the telltale signs. Strong women are decisive, so they know what they want in a long-term relationship. Basically, they won’t keep you guessing.
So how does a strong woman start a good relationship? Let’s look at a few pointers, as told by the many gifs of NBC’s hit tearjerker “This Is Us.”
She knows no man is perfect, and she knows she is not perfect. Therefore, she knows all too well that a perfect relationship is not possible. In fact, she thinks a relationship with no natural highs and lows would be pretty boring.
She automatically avoids approximately 75% of all inequality-based arguments by doing this. When your man is a self-confessing supporter of equal rights for both genders, you’re already ahead of the game.
If you’re only looking for the parts of your relationship that need work, that is all you are going to find. Although you shouldn’t be in denial about the bad things, you should try to find one good aspect for every bad aspect you can identify. If you’re struggling to find one good aspect for each bad one, that’s when you should be worried.
Confident women are not ashamed of showing words of affirmation toward their significant others, or even the ones they’re dating. She knows that if a man is turned off by compliments, he’s not the one anyway. She likes to be complimentary of those she loves, so if a guy’s not into that, it’s just not gonna work out.
A good relationship will have open communication, especially about the positive things you want to say to the other person.
Strong women know that true equality means knowing the love language of both partners. If she’s dating a guy who *loves* romantic gestures, she won’t be afraid of looking “desperate” if she wants to plan a spontaneous romantic night for him.
Strong women are not necessarily immune to the natural human desire to be right. However, although they have pride, it does not come in the way of hearing what their significant other has to say. She might not always say it right away, but if her man has better points, she’ll eventually admit it.
As we’ve learned, equality of the genders means a lot more than equal pay. The Netflix documentary “The Mask You Live In” discusses how the popular definition of true masculinity is emotional rigidity:
“The way boys are brought up makes them hide all of their natural, vulnerable, and empathic feelings behind a mask of masculinity.”
This lack of freedom to express emotional depth is perpetuated by women who get immediately disgusted by male tears. Strong women want both men and women to express their emotions in a healthy way, so she won’t see crying as a dealbreaker.
If a man is not 100% down with being a homemaker, that’s not a problem for the strong woman. However, she will most likely want her eventual spouse to take on about half the burden of house chores. Not only does this show humility on the guy’s part, but it allows both spouses to explore career opportunities simultaneously.
You know the ones. The ones who steal other guys’ sweatshirts and hats like you’re at a middle school ice cream social. The ones who compliment the physiques of other men in their boyfriends’ presence. These women are usually not strong enough to believe their significant others’ commitment to them; thus, they fan the flame of desire with jealousy.
Strong women know how to handle men who have lingering affections for them. They make themselves clear, but they don’t have to be mean or vague about it. They just tell the truth. After all, if she questioned how much her man loved her, she’d just ask him straight-up.
Let’s face it …there are a lot of boring hot guys out there. A strong woman will only pursue a long-term commitment with someone who matches her sense of humor. After all, a good relationship will build its success on a solid foundation of puns (well, a large majority of them, anyway).
How many girls have called themselves “needy” just because they want more time with their beloved? Requests such as these are not too much to ask, and strong women are not afraid to make them. However, if the request does become to difficult to fulfill, she is willing to consider a compromise.
Although “This Is Us” is unfortunately between seasons, we can learn a lot from the strong men and women of the Pearson family. If most of your relationships have had pretty solid starts, then you’re one of the strongest women to have ever walked the earth (besides Wonder Woman, that is).
