Let’s be honest, breakups suck.
There’s no denying that.
Having to tell the person you’ve been dating that things just aren’t working out anymore is NEVER fun. Especially if you genuinely care for the person and their feelings.
However, taking feelings and all into consideration, sometimes breaking up with someone is the best thing to do. So, here are some tips to hopefully make it easier.
Thanks to Entity – and the Reddit community- here’s how to break up with someone.
“In person and explain why as best as you can.”
Do it in person. Don’t be the person that wants to break up with someone through text message. Sure, there are some circumstances where via phone call or text might be the option. But, if it’s possible for it to be done in person, DO THAT.
No one deserves to be broken up via text or a call. Like, hello, don’t you remember what happened between Joe Jonas and Taylor Swift? She ended up writing a song about him.
“Don’t hide behind excuses.”
No excuses. Don’t go into the situation by saying, “Its not you, it’s me,” because that is the most absolute shit excuse in the book. Everyone has heard and no one believes you.
There is a difference between giving a reason like “We’ve outgrown each other and our lives are heading in different directions” to “You’re too mature for me.”
Really? Tell me more about my maturity. Alright, point is, don’t use excuses because they’re shit.
“Maybe we’ll get back together someday.”
The difference between giving an excuse and lying are MAJOR.
Don’t tell someone that there is a possibility of getting together in the future. If that were to happen, let things take their course.
But, when you tell someone that there is a possibility of getting back in the future, it’s like the breakup doesn’t make sense in the first place.
“Less is more.”
Sometimes in stressful situations we tend to talk more. Which, at times, means it’s more confusing.
When you’re attempting to break up with someone, don’t say more than what you’re trying to say, because then it’ll be unclear. Being clear, concise and getting to the point sooner rather than later is often best.
“Honestly I think the worst is no explanation, just ignoring the person, making them wonder if you’re even alive or not.”
DO NOT IGNORE THE PERSON YOU ARE TRYING TO BREAK UP WITH. Honestly, it’s easier to explain the situation. Ignoring the person you’re trying to break up with just means more drama.
Being honest and straightforward pays off in the long run. Plus, then you won’t feel worse because you’ll know that you weren’t ghosting them. Also, imagine how much it would suck if someone disappeared on you out of nowhere.
“Do not engage in discussion or argument and don’t attempt to comfort her.”
Be prepared for the possibility that the person you are breaking up with will not want to talk to you. They will not want to look at your face, much less be in the same room as you.
Be ready for distance. Also, even if you were friends prior to your relationship, be prepared to not have communication between the two of you.
“Be honest, but be kind.”
Finally, remember to be kind. This person has feelings and if you were dating them you obviously somewhat cared for them. It’s important to be honest, but there’s no reason to say things in a way that will really hurt the other person. Like, you’re breaking up with them, so they get it.
So, there you have it. That’s how you break up with someone. It will never be easy, and it will never be fun. However, the most important thing is to be honest about the situation. Hopefully they will understand.
