Relationships July 19, 2019
YES!
Getting engaged is a HUGE deal! It means you and your partner are ready to commit to a life long journey together. Before any of that can happen, you have to have the talk. Ask yourselves, are you ready to take that next big step? Talking about proposal ideas can be extremely rewarding. You can help create a moment you both will never forget.
It can be uncomfortable to express you are ready to get engaged. You may feel weird to tell someone else you want to move forward. Communicating beforehand helps both partners be on the same page. But talking about the logistics of being ready to get married leads to the fun part. You now get to brainstorm your perfect proposal ideas.
So why should I be writing about this? Well, the love of my life recently proposed to me! (After what feels like a lifetime of waiting…) We were road tripping to Los Angeles, on my way attend the Entity Academy. With an already exciting and life changing experience the horizon, the proposal was the perfect cherry on top.
I honestly didn’t believe in love at first sight, but I knew from the moment we met there was an unexplainable draw between us. It was such a scary yet thrilling thought, but I knew very early on that he was the one.
Fast forward three and a half years later, and the time had finally come. We had thrown the idea around of marriage from the get-go. Within the last year, actual conversations started to unfold about the next serious step we would take together.
For us, it made a huge difference being able to talk about this topic beforehand. Here’s are some tips to move into the next chapter of your journey together.
If this is going to be your life long partner, you need to feel comfortable. There really shouldn’t be taboo topics between the two of you. You should confident in expressing your thoughts and opinions. Be honest about what you want from a life together, and how this stepping stone is so important.
Talking about something like proposal ideas may feel awkward, but it shouldn’t be scary. If this person is your person, they should feel like home. You should feel like you can be your true self with them, so be honest and genuine in expressing your desires in a proposal.
Almost everyone in this day and age has a Pinterest board. It is the base hub for idea gathering, other than scouring the internet. Take full advantage of this! Sometimes with just words, your partner doesn’t fully understand what you may want. Look up as many proposal ideas as possible.
Save your favorites, compile boards and gather what you like. Look on Instagram and Google, examine other people’s proposal ideas. Every relationship is so different so find things you like and the actual proposal will be special and curated for you.
Being to show my love, Parker, visual representations of things that I like helped him manifest and bring to life a vision for the both of us.
You need to look back at how far you’ve come, to see how beautiful things will be moving forward. Reminisce, and talk about the journey of how you got to this point. You totally can bring up the good, bad, ugly, and most glorious moments of your time together. That is the point.
When you are vulnerable you allow for a free flow of communication. You should discuss all of the things that make you guys a united unit. All of the trials, tribulations, successes and happiness has culminated into this moment.
Parker and I talked a lot about how special the bond that we have built is. He held onto an “Open When Letter” that I wrote two years prior talking about opening when he was ready to propose. It was something meaningful for him, and in turn, was meaningful for me when he pulled it out on the spot while we were literally getting engaged.
Jewelry, jewelry, jewelry. You should look up ideas, jewelry brands and explore designers. It ultimately is up to your partner to…you know…make the purchase. But giving them ideas is a perfect way to ensure that they know what you like. They have the freedom to add their own flare. You both will be on the same page.
Plus it’s so fun to look at engagement rings and see all of the styles. There are so many options and ways to create the perfect ring. You are helping give your partner a true idea of what you like. I guarantee they want to give you what you like, because they love you.
Proposal ideas have the widest range of possibilities. Some people don’t like the spotlight on them at all. Others want a huge production to feel all eyes on them. You should discuss with your partner what you want from a proposal. It will help you both navigate what you are both the most comfortable with. It really is something of personal preference.
I told Parker that I wanted us to be able to have the space to be open. I wanted us to feel like we can be vulnerable, emotional and candid with each other. You don’t want to feel like your reactions will be based on who is present around you.
Get real with your partner. You need to be straight up and talk about it. Talk about both of your wants and needs. There is no aspect of getting engaged that should go undiscussed. I mean, it’ll be the person you spend the rest of your life with.
