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ENTITY brings you some fail-proof dating conversation starters.

Dating is difficult, and so are dating conversation starters. We’re nervous from being in front of the person we like. We’re trying our best to get to know them and impress them with the best sides of us at the same time as trying to to not royally screw ourselves.

Here are ENTITY’s foolproof dating conversation starters to get your date going!

1 How did you spend your day?

Although this question seems standard, it’s truly an indicator of the other person’s personality. Did they have a busy, tiring day? If they’re a little on-edge, maybe this is their reaction to stress. Or maybe their day was very slow and lax – maybe they’re a relaxed person who goes about at their own pace. Or they had a really interesting day that is super interesting to talk about! It’s definitely a question worth starting your conversation with to avoid misunderstandings.

2 Where is home ?

Perhaps to the other person, home is the coffee shop down the street. Or they city they grew up in but had to move away from. Or the country they traveled to and would like to go back to someday. Maybe the other person is an indoors-type of person, or an adventurer aching to travel the world. There’s lots to talk about here.

3 What do your Saturdays usually look like?

Comparing Saturdays is a great conversation topic – it’s a great gauge in seeing what and how much they’re willing to disclose about themselves while talking about their hobbies and casual interests. Furthermore, this dating conversation starter is a harmless way to find out how they spend their time and as well as what they’d be interested in doing for the next date.

4 What’s your morning routine like? How do you spend your nights?

A person’s habits can be extremely telling of their reactions and decision making process. Someone spends very little time in the morning and rushes out of the door will have different reactions and decision-making processes than someone who wakes up early and takes their time to leave the house. On that same strand, someone who prefers to sleep earlier might have different behaviors and priorities than someone who prefers to sleep later.

5 What’s on your bucket list?

This is such a fun conversation starter! Asking what’s on their bucket list gives you a lighthearted glimpse at how bold the other person is as well as what’s important and interesting to them. Plus, it’s a great way to spark up someone’s zeal for life and re-energize a potentially dead conversation.

ENTITY brings you some fail-proof dating conversation starters.

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6 What do you want to accomplish before you die?

This question is a great question because it’s a fun, no-pressure way of asking what the other person’s passions and goals for the future are. And what’s important to the other person as well as what they plan for themselves will indirectly (or maybe directly) affect you. So it’s important to ask!

7 What would you be doing if you weren’t at your current job?

Again, this question is just a fun question to see what’s professionally important and interesting to the other person.

8 What’s your dream job?

Another fun question about what’s important or interesting to your partner!

9 What’s the most interesting job you’ve ever had?

Asking this question is sure to liven up the conversation. People naturally love talking about themselves and the interesting things they’ve been a part of. Use this opportunity to see what they find interesting and valuable professionally.

10 If you were to hop onto a plane right now, disregarding money and other consequences, where would you go? Why?

A fun question about what they find interesting! Are they someone who likes to relax or likes to be learning and engaged? What would be their reason for traveling?

ENTITY brings you some fail-proof dating conversation starters.

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11 When traveling to a new city, where in the city do you visit first?

Same as above! Maybe they’re a photography guru, or a sightseeing tourist, or a fashionista, or a foodie (like me).

12 Where can you see yourself living? Do you have any plans to move there?

Where someone sees themselves is such a big indicator of identity. By asking this, you’re indirectly asking what they vibe with and what atmosphere they feel comfortable in. Furthermore, you’re potentially asking what they’re doing in the future. Deep, but fun, stuff.

13 If you were marooned on an island, what three things would you bring with you? Why?

This age-old question is such an effective way to ask someone what their living habits are. It’s such a great question because its casual and indirect enough to garner an honest answer while direct enough where the other person knows why you’re asking it. It’s a comfortable way of trying to get to know somebody.

14 Cross country road trips or no?

This really is a fun, harmless conversation starter. You can find out if they’re an indoors-y person, if there’s any place they’re burning to go and looking for an excuse to visit, if they are okay with long drives, and/or if they have motion sickness. Use this as an angle to plan out what a perfect vacation looks like and to subtly indicate that you’re interested in sticking around for a long time.

15 Any favorite movies, books or TV shows?

This is your chance to show that’s you’re a cultured person and find out if you have any common interests with the other person!

ENTITY brings you some fail-proof dating conversation starters.

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16 What’s in a perfect burger for you?

A smooth way of finding out what they like to eat and if they have any specific dietary restrictions, like if they’re vegan or allergic to certain foods. Of course, you should probably explicitly ask them if they haven’t mentioned any specific diets or allergies already. You can’t date someone if they’re dead.

17 What’s your favorite drink or beverage?

You can use this question to plan future dates (and figure out if they’re lactose intolerant).

18 Do you have any favorite sports or favorite exercises?

Are they an active person? When in the day do they fit exercise into their schedule? Will you be hitting the gym or screaming at the TV together in the future?

19 Do you have any quirks and hidden talents? What about pet peeves?

What this conversation starter is really going for is self-disclosure. How well can they keep up small talk? Do they have enough self-esteem so that they can speak positively about themselves? Are they modest or narcissistic? Most importantly, which land mines do you know to avoid for next time?

20 What do you miss about your childhood that you wish you could do today?

An innocent, harmless question about what things are still important to them today. This question is super fluffy and cute, so prepare to have your heart melt whenever you ask this.

ENTITY brings you some fail-proof dating conversation starters.

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21 What three artists summarize your taste in music?

Like an earlier question, this conversation starter is really asking about identity and what vibes and atmosphere the other person identifies with.

22 What was the last ticketed event you went to? How did that go?

A question like this is such a fun conversation starter! You want to make sure the other person is cultured, and passionate, out and about and willing to have fun. You also want to make sure the other person isn’t too busy for a relationship. And most of all, you want to hear what the other person is passionate about.

23 Tell me an embarrassing story about yourself.

I can’t emphasize how important self-disclosure is. It’s a subtle art. You have to walk the fine line of being honest and charming without spilling too much information. This question is a great test for how honest someone is, while finding out what they find is embarrassing and funny. Maybe you’ll find that you like the other person even more than you did before. Make sure to reciprocate with a story of your own!

24 If you could have any superpower, what would you choose? Why?

Just another fun question asking what’s important to the other person. Wouldn’t we all like to know how each of us would save the world?

25 What’s your favorite animal? What’s your ideal pet?

A lighthearted question to spark some energetic debate. Everyone loves animals, after all.

ENTITY brings you some fail-proof dating conversation starters.

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We’re all interesting people. It’s just harder for some of us to show that to other people than it is for others. With some help, it’ll be a little more painless than it currently is.  And remember, these are dating conversation starters, not questions to fire at your date one after the other. Expand on the conversation and get to know them. Best of luck!

Edited by Shahrazad Encinias
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