Relationships January 8, 2018
It will get easier.
Heartbreaks are unbearable. If you’ve ever fallen in and out of love, then you understand the painfully relentless ache in your heart that comes with losing someone who meant the world to you.
The pain may dull over time but it never really goes away until you truly move on. Living with a heartbreak almost feels like living with a broken leg. It’s all you can think or talk about and it affects your daily life. But no matter what you do it never really goes away.
So, if you’re feeling hopeless or lost after a breakup, keep these reminders close to you to help you get through your day a little easier.
Some people are not meant to be together forever, and that’s fine. If the other person left you, then let them go if you love them. They will come back if they want to. If you let them go, then trust your heart and know it was for the best. Breakups never truly make sense but sometimes it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. This breakup will make you stronger and more resilient. Every lost love will teach you what you want from a significant other and what you don’t. But trust that your heartbreak proves that you’re alive. It’s proof that you’re capable of love, and this love meant so much or else it wouldn’t hurt so much. Relationships come and go, so learn from each one. Instead of filling yourself with hate and resentment, remind yourself of the good times but also remember that nothing good lasts forever.
While this aching feels endless and relentless, it’s not going to last forever. It will heal, and you will forget why you were hurting, to begin with. This pain feels so strong because it’s a fresh wound. At the moment, you don’t know how to live a life without this person but, eventually, you will not only live but thrive without them. Your feelings for them will fade. The anger, sadness and resentment will fade. You will only remember why you loved them and be grateful for your time with them. But this pain is not everlasting. It will fade into a feeling of appreciation. So, for the moment, let yourself feel this pain. Wallow in it if you need to because you’re human. But remember it’s not eternal.
In your darkest times, you learn how to heal yourself. When you’re not busy loving someone else, you have time to love yourself. The time you spend alone with your heartbreak is the time you figure out how to care and nurture yourself. Your loneliness will teach you how to be okay on your own. Instead of drowning in your sadness and loneliness, learn how to use it to your advantage. Find a way to be okay with your own companionship because you don’t need another person to feel whole.
While all you can focus on at the moment is the pain of losing a loved one, this will only leave you in a fit of rage that you will never get over. Or you will be left wallowing your own sadness. Remember that having the opportunity to love someone will mean more than losing the person in the long run. You will forget the pain of not having them in your life but you will never forget what their love meant to you. Be grateful for the love and move on.
Every heartbreak helps you realize what you want in a relationship and what you don’t want. Your next relationship will be better than the last. You will learn how to love more intensely because you know sometimes love doesn’t last. Every heartbreak is just making you more resilient for the next heartbreak because you will deal with heartbreak multiple times in your life. People will constantly come and go. Anyone who stays is meant to stay, and anyone who leaves, leaves for a reason. Every person comes through your life for a reason, so appreciate them for how they’ve helped you grow and open yourself to the idea of other people walking in and out to make you a better person.
