Relationships January 22, 2018
It's time to start healing.
It is not your fault that he left you without even saying goodbye. Some people just aren’t meant to stay in our lives. They are the temporary ones that come and go.
Don’t rack your brain trying to figure out why he left. You can think of a host of reasons, but one thing is for sure, if he was courageous enough, he would have told you why.
You may feel like you need some closure, but sometimes the only closure you’ll ever need is the understanding that you deserve better. So let it go, let him go, let him be. You are probably better off without him. If not now, someday you will realize that your life is better without him in it.
You are not for him and he is not for you.
It is not your fault that he feels you are not enough or too much for him. You may be intense and passionate or mild and sweet. Maybe he just could not match your intensity or handle your sweetness.
However, remember that you are good enough, always have been and always will be, and to the one who loves you and accepts you for who you are, he will see this.
There will always be people who find you inadequate and cannot love you as much as you love them, but the world is also filled with people who can and will love you fiercely. You are just not for everyone and that is okay.
Respect yourself enough to let go of someone who doesn’t see your worth.
Understand that it will hurt so much. Losing the one you love is heartbreaking. When we lose someone we love, there is just a void, an emptiness.
You will find it difficult carrying your heart with a huge hole in it. Fill that space with love. Be gentle with it, especially now that it is broken.
It may take some time to heal but give yourself time, allow yourself to be sad, to grieve and to grow. Take this time as an opportunity. A moment. A chance to rebuild.
Grow through what you are going through.
You may not know where to start, but you can start wherever you are. When you are ready, just take that step, however feeble it is.
Even if you find yourself going back and forth between holding on and letting go, just keep on moving. You’ll never know how far you can go if you stop.
Keep your own pace. Don’t compare yourself to someone else’s journey. Soon you will realize how far you’ve come and how much stronger you have become as you keep on moving.
I know it doesn’t feel okay right now, but it is going to be. Just know in your heart that the pain, the loneliness and the longing will come to pass. It is not there to stay. Know that it is not going to be easier each passing day, but you will become stronger.
Tell yourself everything will work out, that things will get better and affirm yourself that what is coming is better than what you have lost.
Move on, darling. Your heart will not stay broken. Your heart will be whole again someday.
Believe that there is a happy ending to all of this. Someday, someone will come along and sweep you off your feet and love you – every inch of you – and appreciate you for your beauty, scars and bruises.
Or maybe your happy ending doesn’t include a guy. It could be just you picking up the broken pieces of your heart, putting them back together and starting over. Maybe your happy ending could just be you, moving on.
So cheer up, have faith and have hope. Believe that the best is yet to come.
