Sex & Life
Sex & Life October 16, 2017
Home is where the heart is.
Raise your hand if you are 100% done with “how to tell you’ve found the one” articles? These pieces are rampant online, and more often than not, they all tend to say the same thing: “He’s nice around your mom, he treats waiters nicely, opens doors”, yada yada yada.
Okay, we get it. He’s not supposed to be a jerk, check. But what about the little things that make someone bearable to live with forever? Are those kinds of things just as easy to nail down as “offers to pay the bill?” Although these gestures are well-meaning, they’re not necessarily dealmakers.
In the same way that home feels like home, there’s no one feature that turns a guy into boyfriend material. It’s a combination of several little things, minute details that come together to make a marriable man.
We’ve taken the liberty of compiling a few details that could, potentially, make a potential life partner.
No one wants to come home and look pretty. You want makeup off, sweatpants on, pizza cooking and “How I Met Your Mother” reruns in five seconds flat. A woman’s unwinding process is completely unique to her, but for the most part, a pure unwinding process is not traditionally attractive.
Therefore, someone who is boyfriend material can watch this process as endearingly as anything else you do. The right person will love the grease-stained, messy bun version of you just as much as the gussied-up version.
I know this one sounds odd, but bare with me. You know that particular scent your parents’ house gives off when you enter it? Maybe it’s a combination of lemon-scented Clorox wipes mixed with some fall-themed candle, or the smell of warm bread fresh out of the oven. Those smells comfort us, and it allured us to the safety and familiarity that home provides.
You should not tolerate the way your man smells, because it should be a comforting scent that calms you down. It essentially has the same affect have essential oils, but it’s probably Old Spice deodorant or something. (especially if his sweater is made out of boyfriend material…pun definitely intended).
Although we might seem like a broken record, it is so so so SO important that your partner respects your boundaries. Consent is key, no matter what boundaries you two have set.
You don’t want to cuddle that night? He should respect your wishes. You don’t want your hand held because you just don’t want to be touched that day? That is your right and privilege. A gentleman will not question or complain about them, but understand them without a hint of competition.
Plus he’ll probably ask “is this okay?” more often than not, which is more attractive than any other pickup line in existence.
Frederich Nietche once said, “When marrying, ask yourself this question: Do you believe that you will be able to converse well with this person into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory.” Being able to hold an engaging conversation for an elongated period of time is not only impressive, it’s essential to a long-lasting relationship.
On the other hand, being comfortable with complete silence is just as important. For two people to be comfortable in each others’ presence, a silence should not cause deep anxiety in either of you as you furiously search for potential discussion topics.
The natural ebb and flow of conversation will be second nature, and when you both run out of things to say, you can sit in pleasant silence, quietly enjoying each others’ company. Someone who is boyfriend material will be totally okay with these silences…unless they’re a raging extrovert.
We hope some of these details cleared the water a bit. If not, door-opening actually is a pretty swell quality in guys too.
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